If you were to wonder why so many individuals are fascinated by the status “married or taken,” you would realize that it goes beyond social or societal pressure and is frequently the result of a lack of self-worth and knowledge.
The key to maintaining your sanity as a person and rising above the intricacies of self-doubt is to first acknowledge your value as a worthy human being who is capable of loving and being loved at any time of your existence in this world.
On a more simplistic level, the lack of purpose and value for oneself has unintentionally contributed to the emergence of phony relationships of all kinds, some of which appear to have led to perfect marriages to the outside world but are chaotic paradises in their private domain. Sadly, due to the growing need to fill that void of unworthiness, many have often mistaken whoever they can get as their rightful companion.
The prevalence of “fake” relationships is rising; by “fake,” we mean fictitious partners that may have your wants but lack your needs because, in the end, it’s always what you need that comes first.
Thus, the more people just get to “marry for the clout” or for the status associated with being married without fully grasping the underlying principles of this freshly infused life journey, the more chaos is likely to hit many of these marital paradises.
Does the notion of marrying the “wrong partner” appeal to individuals, or is there more to it?
There is no shortage of research about the sizeable impact social media has on our relationship decisions and dating choices, ranging from the desire to upgrade our status in order to keep up with the newest trends to what not!
What is the impact of peer pressure and negative social input on relationships?
Many people give in to peer pressure to adopt the latest trends, which is one of the reasons why they choose the first partner they can find. The rise of social media, which frequently depicts a luxurious, fun-filled life of dating and marriage free from arguments, disputes, and occasionally traumas, has successfully increased.
Due to social media’s prominence as a major digital space, some people may feel excessive pressure to “keep up with the glamour and splendor of society weddings,” and as a result, people disregard all consequences and go all out, even if it means adopting a “false” partner who now becomes a necessary evil in order to get what “everyone” else seems to have.’
No one is immune from such pressure; single, dating, or married, we all often feel the need to fit in and our idea of a desirable life partner or date, are often models of what we see and desire. These all tastefully following the mold of many of the seemingly happy social media influencers or couples on the web.
Making the costly mistake of getting into an abusive dating relationship when you’re single is a clear warning sign that you’re in for an unbearable amount of suffering if you ever manage to survive the dating phase and decide to be married to that person.
The world is a big mess, there are a lot of broken people from failed relationships and loveless homes who are busy building new homes without receiving or undergoing necessary rehabilitation.
What does being in a relationship entail?
Dating must have a purpose (end goal) beyond licking ice cream and having hot naked sex, procreation, and public displays of affection. Your relationship must leave you better than when you entered it and not leave you scarred for future relationships. The quality of your relationship is questioned if you find yourself looking for a new relationship while in a relationship.
Whatever union you are bound in should always provide some level of assurances. we are indeed bound to make mistakes when choosing partners, and if that has already happened, it’s only right we re-evaluate our position in our partner’s life and what the relationship is offering, even if it has reached the status of “married”.
Finally, the idea that your relationship will change for the best with time can be very convincing yet misleading. Unfortunately, many people never live to see their partners’ positive changes, and those that get to witness their partners change, sadly saw them transform into something worse. As a result, it is therefore pertinent to embrace treatment, increased self-awareness, and self-evaluation because no one can truly love another if they do not love themselves, at least not in a narcissistic way.
Well, that’s an article for another read!