It’s often said you will never be enough for a person that doesn’t love you and that’s the irony of love and life.
Love Shadows
Our warmth never rocks their heart as it does not beat for us, our eyes never catch a glimpse into their soul that is searching for someone else. They sadly won’t feel it in their bones no matter how sweetly we may profess our professed love for them in silent whispers.
We always hold to their embraces the longest, our kisses are swiftly forgotten while theirs linger on our lips. They wouldn’t be able to comprehend the profundity of our words no matter how many love letters we wrote. They will never really comprehend or appreciate our expressions of emotion, regardless of the many ways we try.
What are the sacrifices we make for love?
Many times, we can count on all the sacrifices we have made, such as the lengths to which we have gone to please them, maintain the peace, or even to the point of going into debt in order to reassure them.
We could likely recall instances in which we had to hold back on bringing up problems lest we come off as unreasonable, insensitive, or simply too demanding because we desired that they step up and attempt to fulfill our relationship needs rather than focusing solely on meeting theirs.
Many of us have been that supportive friend and partner for so long, creating justifications for them that we never even realized we were doing it, all because we were so much in love and these justifications made us feel better and gave us hope that they might at least improve with time. We justified this by telling ourselves that they were simply too busy and that we should be grateful that we were at least one of their priorities despite their other pressing obligations.
Then one day it all clicks!
What happens when we realize we have been played?
Realizing that we have been played in this game of love and receiving love in return, we suddenly know better. We remember that even though we led a busy life full of obligations and many responsibilities, we still made time for this partner or close friend.
We suddenly start berating ourselves for all the times we went beyond and above to prove our value and our love. Then we realize that even though during our connection with this partner or friend, we were always the first to apologize, they nevertheless woke up one day and decided not to be a part of our lives.
Some may have used the cliche that we were either too polite or too good for them, which left them no choice but to walk right over us. Only then, while we are shocked and wondering where we went wrong, would we realize what has happened.
It is now crystal that despite of our best efforts, we aren’t and most likely will never be enough for them.
What to do if you find yourself in such a situation:
- First off, it’s not a moment for regrets instead muster every ounce of strength you have left in your body and rise. Do not hold yourself responsible for your current emotional pain. Remind yourself of all of the wonderful people you have in your life who have supported you through everything.
- Remember that although being alone could be bad, being with someone or hanging around people who never truly love or care about you is worse.
- Focus on all the love you have to give that will one day be appreciated.
How to move on from a heartbreaking situation:
- Recognize that dwelling on your regrets over a connection or relationship is a waste of time that will keep you rooted in the past. The best you could have done was what you did.
- Accept that no relationship is a fairy tale. Even while soulmates do exist, keep in mind that the building blocks of a strong relationship are made up of virtues like commitment, empathy, and forgiveness which your now former partner lacks!
- Remember as for the future, you will eventually meet someone in this life who will treat you with the deference and degree of desirable reciprocation you deserve.
- Finally, never blame your new past for not loving you or treating you kindly. Let go of any resentment you may have lest it interfere with any future relationships you may have. Your failed partners or friends may have thought they loved you, but it’s obvious that their love wasn’t enough. One thing is certain, though: they will find out what they missed much too late.
In the world we find ourselves, individuals consistently support one another, even when it’s not convenient or particularly fun, they form a true partnership or friendship and ride the waves of life together. This does mean that there is no perfect person out there floating through the world waiting to meet you and whisk you into your happily ever after.
However, it is worthy to note that there are people out there just like you who are looking for a fulfilling relationship and are aware that it won’t come easily. Many have been through enough heartaches of their own to understand that in life, relationships grow stronger when you choose to respect one another’s effort to keep it.