We all have our notion of an ideal relationship; that idyllic picture painted in our hearts. While some have been fortunate enough to realize their ambitions of acquiring that fantastic relationship with an amazing partner, regretfully many more have not and would not due to people’s obsessions and imaginations leading them to believe that life should happen a certain way!
Nobody is perfect; let’s face it! Despite the reality that we all have our flaws and differences, this, however, does not imply that we do not know what is best for us; at least many do.
Sometimes we tend to be picky, which is acceptable in itself, but keep in mind that the person we know and think perfectly matches us might not actually have the qualities we think they do, or more likely, that ideal partner we secretly crave might just be out of our league.
How to make your partner the best pick for you:
- Love can never be regulated; you either experience it or you don’t. It might not happen right away, but if you try to meet your partner, halfway by being supportive through whatever may hit your relationship, you are likely to open doors to the purest forms of love you’ve ever experienced.
- We often forget that love is a patient passion, therefore if you have decided to be with someone, it is only appropriate that you let your love for them fully develop or end the relationship right off the bat and don’t lead them on.
Nowadays, many singles get consumed with muddled ideas of how wonderful life would be if they just had that particular partner they have been eyeing, or how the making of concessions and compromises might lead to that marriage they so badly would love to have.
How do you truly love yours?
- For relationships that are just kicking off, always know when to quit, reciprocate and encourage the love you are in.
- Secondly, let go of the notion of having the ideal marriage or relationship, and instead, collaborate with your partner to make the most of your union as this would make life so much better than they think it already is.
- Newly engaged couples are encouraged to plan a great wedding for themselves within the limits of their financial resources and avoid going into debt just to please family and friends, it could weigh down on your love life with your partner.
Certain relationships have become one-sided, and many more are deteriorating fast due to far-reaching fantasies and pure infatuation on love and life.
How to avoid infatuation and manipulation in a relationship:
- Firstly, never struggle with the truth that your relationship might have to end if love is nonexistent in it as this would only sink you deeper into the abyss of relational issues.
- Never arm-twist a partner that cares and loves you unconditionally by falling into a habit of craving fantasies or unrealistic expectations that seem farfetched when you know neither of you can fund or afford them conveniently. This could unintentionally cause that partner to start drifting away from you.
- Always be on the lookout for unrequited feelings to avoid dating yourself! This has commonly escalated people’s healthy relationships into toxic partnerships after first turning them into flings. Due to this, unexpected events, such as baby mamas or intriguing situations where people were being used, have arisen in recent years.
Finally, love is blind, and on some pitiful occasions, some people develop an unhealthy craving for the opposite sex and transform into stalkers. It’s critical to picture yourself as the better half in this situation; it is obvious, that you won’t make friends with your stalker self. Likewise, always keep in mind that when you act immaturely to win someone’s love, you set yourself up to be thrown under the bus.
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