There is a common belief that some romantic relationships require time to develop and that love sometimes takes time to catch up. It’s like receiving a postcard from a faraway place, where the message arrives after the sender has already moved on. In certain cases, you may find yourself falling in love with your partner gradually over time, without even realizing it.
It is widely known that not everyone loves their partners as deeply as they should, or even worse, their partners do not receive the type of love they yearn for, at least to the extent that they would have desired one loves them.
What does the possible future hold for couples in a loveless relationship?
The decision to cling to a love that you both don’t respect enough to reciprocate but are too afraid to let go of will ultimately make both parties miserable.
Acting happy in a relationship you are desperately trying to end because you don’t want to appear as the bad person in the relationship or because you are just trying to ease the agony of an inevitable heartbreak is just pure witchcraft, especially if you are aware that you are truly the problem in the relationship.
Staying in a loveless relationship does no one any favors as invariably hearts would be broken, However, life could well turn out better for the victim in the relationship because they were able to get out of an entanglement with a selfish partner who refused to fully understand what it meant to be in love and, most importantly, what it means to be in a committed relationship. Life would hopefully turn out better for the victim in the relationship for escaping an entanglement.
What you should do if you are responsible for a loveless relationship
If you realize you don’t or can’t love someone entirely, it’s only right to let them go. After all, you can’t say you love someone and yet you’re happier when they are not around or you are more vested in talking and spending time in the company of other persons, especially randoms.
No matter your shared history you shouldn’t help anyone by loving them out of obligation or guilt it only reveals your selfishness and reiterate the fact that they deserve better than you. Regardless of how devoted and faithful they are to you, you are not worthy of them and they deserve better out of this situation.
You need to come to terms that you can’t choose the pieces of a person to love because it’s these little components that make up who they are and since you don’t love them with these flaws, you shouldn’t be with them. It is in the best interest of your sanity and theirs.
Top 2 things you should know about holding on to a loveless relationship:
- First off, nothing is worse than making someone hold on to the idea that you would one day sincerely love them when you know you can’t and won’t, but you still won’t let them go, possibly because you still sense there is value in them. This nasty tactic of leading people on has caused many disastrous encounters, and many depressed people have reported that their lives were ruined as a result of giving everything to a spouse who never loved them.
- Secondly, in addition to being selfish, what you’re successfully doing is preventing that partner from finding someone who would genuinely and deeply love them in all aspects of their being.
It’s true that no one is perfect, and we all have our bad days and bad attitudes, however, you have to love your partner through these rough patches. Relationships go through difficult periods; life isn’t always a postcard of sunshine and rainbows it requires constant work and love. If you can’t picture a future with him or her, then you don’t have any business being together as a couple or doing things only couples would!
The one thing that is truly worse than being alone is being with someone who makes you feel alone.