When we fall for someone it’s tough to stop gushing about our new love; probably the good looks, sense of humor, and those undeniable love sparks.
But why is it that we’re just naturally attracted to some people and not others? Sure, love is mysterious, but in some ways, attraction is not. Science actually has an explanation for why we’re attracted to certain people and why we don’t give others the time of day.
The Love Shadow will attempt to;
- Tell us a few things that draw us towards certain people in terms of our biological makeup.
- How you can increase your level of attractiveness.
So when it comes to love, most people have an idea of what they’re looking for in a partner, right?
Good looks and ambition, a good sense of humor, are common qualities that people often seek out, however, there are other factors you’re likely unaware of that play an important part as regards who you get attracted to.
Reasons That Get You Attracted Unknowingly
#1. Proximity plays a role in who you’re attracted to:
Believe it or not, have you ever noticed that it’s not uncommon to see co-stars from your favorite series or movies dating in real life?
Why does this seem that being exposed to someone repeatedly increases the likelihood that we’re going to be attracted to them?
This position is backed by up to 50 years’ worth of science and research which has found that proximity is one of the most powerful indicators of attraction. The truth is we’re easily drawn to people we see frequently. Have you ever wondered how or why your colleagues at work suddenly begin to look so attractive after you’ve worked with them at the same desk or the same office for a couple of years? Do you ever wonder why people fall for office romance?
Sometimes people will fall into such relationships simply cannot help themselves and proximity play a huge role in making that happen or influence who you end up being attracted to.
#2. People can be attracted to those who look healthy and fertile.
Now, whether we realize it or not, we’re biologically attracted to people who are healthy looking and who look like they can reproduce. Heterosexual men are typically attracted to younger women who appear to be of childbearing age and are physically attractive. Additionally, research suggests that people with good face symmetry, face structure, and hip, and shoulder ratios are well-considered for relationships and people see these things as important and very appealing.
So moving forward, bear in mind that a lot of women will be attracted to taller men, more masculine-looking men, whereas men will be attracted to women who have a wider waist-to-hip ratio or softer look and more.
#3. What our environment teaches us:
So beyond physical features, our families, peers, and the media all play a role in helping us learn what to view as attractive.
For instance, some people may seek out partners who share attributes that remind them of their opposite-sex parent, because that is what they’ve basically always known growing up.
A lot of women have been socialized, for instance that primarily older men tend to be more financially established and can take care of the women and this would subconsciously guide their decision when raising any subsequent family that they’ll have now. These are just a couple of examples of how we can learn who or what is attractive. There’s no single way that this learning occurs, but everyone is influenced by it, believe it or not.
#4. Personality traits:
So research has shown that easygoing people are seen as more attractive.
In 2007, a study research required its participants to rate photos of strangers in terms of attractiveness, they were then asked to evaluate the same photos, but this time around, the researchers added personality descriptions.
Essentially, the study found that pictures of random individuals with positive descriptions received the highest ratings for attractiveness by the participants, suggesting that certain personality traits do play a factor in judging attractiveness.
#5. Hormones play a role in attraction:
In a 2016 study, it was found that men with high levels of testosterone, the primary male sex hormone, may be more attracted to women but that’s not the only way hormones play a role in attraction.
A study of 238 college women, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, highlighted that women are attracted to certain men depending on where they are and how they are feeling.
On average, fertile women were found to be more interested in short-term relationships with men who they perceive as cocky in comparison.
At other points in their cycle, they gravitated toward longer-term relationships with kinder, more conscientious types of men who are stereotypically considered good father material.
Now here’s something even more interesting. High levels of dopamine and a related hormone, norepinephrine, are released during attraction; these chemicals make us giddy, energetic, and euphoric even, leading to decreased appetite and insomnia, which means that you can be so in love that you can’t eat or even sleep.
Norepinephrine is also known as noradrenaline, and it may sound familiar because it plays a large role in the flight or flight response, which kicks into high gear when we’re stressed and keeps us alert. So brain scans of people in love actually show that the primary reward centers of the brain are fired up like crazy.
Things You Can Do To Increase Your Level Of Attractiveness
#1. Remember that proximity plays a role in attraction.
This means that if you make yourself available or you expose yourself to someone you like, over and again, there’s a high possibility that they’ll begin to find you attractive simply based on the fact that you’re always in their face.
Of course, this solution is not black and white as exposing yourself consistently to someone who simply does not find you sexually appealing or physically attractive, may make them instead put you in the friend zone because even though they have fallen in love with your personality and who you are, which may not be what you want, they may only find you attractive enough to consider you a friend or a close acquaintance
#2. Healthy Lifestyle
The Love Shadow recommends you invest in getting into shape, for instance by working out on one’s physique, you can begin to experience a whole new level of attention once they start to take shape.
Just as women delight in bulging muscles, lean torsos, and six-pack abs in men, many consider as “women attracting magnets”.
Likewise, men consider women who have managed to lose belly fat and increase their waist-to-hip ratio because these women’s confidence level surge and they begin to garner a lot of attention from men wherever they go.
In a nutshell, if you want to be more attractive. Get in shape. Workout.
Put in effort into how you look, both with and without clothes. Remember that people are easily attracted to healthy people.
#3. Personality traits
Finally, if personality traits impact who we’re attracted to, it goes without saying that the nicer, more pleasant a person is, the more attractive people are to them.
Have you ever wondered why a lot of people tend to follow other people who aren’t really physically attractive? It’s simply because these people are generally endearing, they’re nicer and leave anyone who encounters them with a positive experience. Philanthropists experiences this a lot. Typically they get a lot of positive vibes from anyone they meet because there seem to help people all the time. When you have a positive personality, you attract a lot of people to yourself it’s just how life works!