Words have enormous influence. It is why wedding vows are recited in the first place. When we promise to honor, love, and cherish our spouse, we are making a tremendous promise to them, likewise in the course of wooing a partner into a romantic relationship, we speak sweet words of adulation, making promises about the future.
Being married or in a romantic relationship often provides us with fresh concerns that may make us lose sight of these promises we made to our spouses at the inception. We therefore must continue to work at it daily and explore ways to appreciate our partners.
What makes someone unappreciative of their partner:
It’s possible to become unmotivated upon getting that desired partner you had longed for, forgetting all the sweet promises you had earlier made, and whatever love oferred in the relationship is only now done for the benefit of outsiders or as an act of eye-service in a bid to send reassuring signals that all is still well with your relationship.
Many people in this generation seek attention and the approval of others when they are under the scrutiny of any sort. To be precise, this is purely sycophantic and a nasty mentality because even in a romantic relationship it’s foolhardy to devote so much to live a life of lies and it would be better if this is checked before it hit the peaks of marriage.
Nowadays, many married men and women are now beginning to join the league of marriage therapists and relationship experts of their experience giving damning comments and offering uninspiring lines like “You will get bored with these activities when you get married or have spent so much time with your partner: activities such as sex, cuddling, romance, breakfast in bed, leaving short notes of love for your partner and lots more” doesn’t cut it anymore.
Perhaps they are right but don’t make the failure in their marriage and love life become the standard for loving in your relationship. We need to recognize that effort and sacrifice are integral parts of any relationship and it builds its whole essence.
Does being in love mean you are weak?
Many have been advised to tone down on how in-depth they show how romantically involved they are with their partners. We recommend you love in full strength and to the best of your ability, it’s wrong on all levels and purely nonsensical to display love with feigned disinterest just not appear as weak or hopelessly in love with someone.
The truth is, there is nothing like being overly committed to a partner especially when it is mutual, it really should just be a way of life for us and not a herculean task. Therefore, activate your love at whatever chance you get; a lifetime is too short a time to not express yourself in love.
Finally, bear in mind that relationships; whether romantic dating or marriage, are our personalized gifts and there are no uniform experiences, so whatever we want is possible if we align our energies and work towards it.
Remember, ”forever is too short a journey to be a boring one.”